non-profit, ponieważ chcemy być pewni, że nikt nigdy nie sprzeda naszych
Chcemy stworzyć społeczność
SGL - czyli ludzi otwartych na nowe,
REALNE znajomości. Ludzi, którzy chcą poznawać innych, po to żeby razem robić
to, co ich rozwija lub bawi, chcą być inspirowani i chcą inspirować innych.
My dajemy narzędzie, które będzie podstawą identyfikacji z
ideą : slogan 'I am SGL' i znak (www.iamsgl.org).
Szukamy ludzi, którzy chcą organizować spotkania, pomóc w
promocji idei, być wsparciem technicznym (informatycznym) albo takich, którzy
po prostu chcą pomagać innym.
Jeśli podoba Ci się nasza idea i utożsamiasz się z nią oraz
chcesz wziąć udział w tej przygodzie to napisz do nas!
We are a non-profit
foundation, because we want to be sure that nobody will ever sell our idea.
We want to
create a community of SGLs – people, who are open to new, REAL relations. Those, who
want to get to know others so they can together do exciting or relaxing things.
People who want to be inspired and want to inspire others.
proposing a tool, which will be identified with the idea: slogan ‘I am SGL’ and
a logo (www.iamsgl.org).
looking for people who want to organize various meetings, help in promotion of the
idea, be a technical support (IT) or those, who just want to help others.
If you like
the idea, you feel it or you want take part in this adventure, write to us.
give people a sticker with ‘I am SGL’ logo and ask them to wear this as a
signal of belonging to SGL community there are usually two reactions. First is
the reaction we like most: what a cool idea, give me the sign. Second is less favorable
for us: I’m not that desperate, it is not that bad with me. I don’t want others to see that I
am without a partner.
second one made me wondering why it is so that we are ashamed of being alone. Not
everyone can tell you how it is to be married, or how it is to be a parent but almost
all of us can tell you how it is to be alone. So, why do we try to neglect this
experience, pretend that it has never happened to me? Why, when alone, we feel
like kind of a losers? Is it biology or culture, or maybe both? I will not give
a simple answer to that. What I want to say is that being alone is a part of
our human existence. If you are alone right now, and you look around with a
feeling that there are almost only couples, you should be aware that:
no there not only happy couples around you, it is your brain playing with you
and showing you only this one thing on which you focus the most
almost all of this people at some point of their life where alone, some of them
will be alone also in future
there are lots of interesting, funny people around you, who are also alone
last but not least, there are many things which you can do to stop being alone,
if you want to, and first of them can be to go out and …, but this is totally
different story. If you are interested in joining I am SGL community go here: http://www.iamsgl.org/
I am not
single right now, but not so long ago I was single for two marvelous,
frustrating, incredible, and miserable years. Being single for me was a mixture
of all of this contrary feelings. I can honestly say that it was most prolific
time in my life. Why? Because I had to define for the second time in my life who
I am. If you are in a relationship you automatically give up some of things
that defines you. I love being in a relationship do not understand me
incorrectly, but look at some couples, they have usually similar ideas about
world, they often like spending spare time in the same way, sometimes they even
look similarly, and that’s cute of course, but… for me a question raises is
this really them. What will left of their ideas
if they are separated somehow? When I became single after 11 years of
being in relationship, I had to ask myself all of these questions: which part
of my life is actually mine, what do I like, what do I think, why I do some of
the things? Why do I spend my holidays every year in a cottage house if one of
my biggest dream ever was to see the world? And every year I promised myself
that next year we will go to the Crimea. We never did and there was always a
good argument why not this time. I do not blame anyone, I just think that you
have to be alone for some time to define for yourself what is really important
for you. Which things you can give up because you love somebody and which are
the core of you and without them you are only partly the person who you want to
be. Therefore, if you are single you have an unique opportunity to get to know
the person which should be most important in your life – you. Use this time and
no matter whether you will be single for life, or one day you will decide to
start a relationship, this time can be the most precious in your life. It was
like to introduce you to the basic definition of the phenomenon of being single
and my efforts of ordering them. I would like to describe social and cultural
basis of the phenomenon, to get to know singles opinion on the choice of such way
of life. I want to define positive and
negative aspects of the phenomenon and its scale. www.IamSGL.org
will tell you about resources of my research. The first one was questionnaire
research. The second one were talks on the internet forum for singles, where
people who live alone talk about the new and occurring more and more often
research I chose an international company because most workers of the firm are
young people just after finishing college with a few years of professional
experience. Desire to broaden as well as obtain new skills, devote their work
time quite often at the cost of their private life. So they are a potential
group of singles - ambitions young people who are oriented towards a career and
put their private life into the background. ( I am SGL on YouTube )
hypotheses in my work were - women make a decision more often to be a single, the
higher level of education the respondent has got the more often he makes a
decision to be single, inhabitants of big cities make a decision more often to
be single, there is a correlation between the picture of happiness or
misfortune of own family and making a decision about being single, there is a
correlation between the way of spending free time and making a decision to be
of the questionnaire proved my hypothesis, but gave also a few surprising
results. It seems that even in strongly family-oriented Polish society, singles
are more and more perceived as a fulfilled people with different way of living
and not as old-fashioned spinsters. Additionally, most of the young singles is
not especially willing to use dating sites or events organized especially for
singles. This new and growing phenomenon is definitely worth looking close to.
It is high time to explain what ‘I am SGL Community’ is.
So starting from the basics, it is a community of single people, of course. And it covers all of them, those who are shy and find getting to know new people as a real pain in the ass (ups ;) ) and those for whom getting a new friend is just a piece of cake. ‘I am SGL’ Foundation wants to bring them all together by organizing SGLs meetings, introducing distinctive sign (I am SGL) which will make easier for others to see ‘one of us’ in the surrounding crowd and by giving an application which will help you find other SGLs in your neighborhood.
The aim of the Foundation is not to be another dating site but to create a community in which sinlges can meet other people in the real life who has similar lifestyle. It does not mean that you cannot make friends with couples, of course you can. But be honest, will your very best friend with a husband and two small children have time to meet you for a coffee on a Thursday evening, just like that without careful preplanning – probably not. Or will your just-to-be-married friend leave his fiancée and go for a month hiking in New Zealand, as you always planned. Maybe. If he is not that sure about this marriage.
What we propose is to join our community and who knows how your life will change. Being a single is a lifestyle, in the same way as being married, or being a parent. And, I will say this over and over again it is not something you should be ashamed of. Have you ever met a parent who is ashamed of this fact? It is your way of living today. It has some drawbacks and some benefits as all kinds of living. We as a Foundation want to focus on the positive sites, for example the fact that you have more time to meet new people on awesome meetings organized for SGLs ;).
Mariusz was once single and he wanted to change this, he looked around and saw many nice girls, and he thought, how should I know whether they are single or not. So he thought that it would be a great idea to give them some nice logo. ‘I am SGL’ came to his mind. It was the beginning (http://www.iamsgl.org/)...
Mariola became single again after 11-year-relationship; she was surrounded by friends, mostly couples… She looked around and asked herself: who will I go on holiday with, or to the theater? How can I meet some other Singles?
We are the kind of people who believe that the more you give, the more you get. So we are willing to give our time and energy because we believe that creating a special community for Singles will make the world for thousands of people a more happier place. Well. there is a piece of the idealist in everyone :)
I am SGL Community blog is for all those who live alone or who know how it is to live alone, or even for those who have never lived alone, but want to know what alone life looks like. So generally, it is for everyone who is human, or even humanlike, more or less. This blog is a part of our project to bring together all single people (http://www.iamsgl.org/), no matter whether they want to remain single or they are single because they have not met the right person yet. We want to write about joys of a single life as well as some troubles (I wish one day someone had told me that repaining red wall requires some special paint ;) ).
I am curious where all this blogging will take us. Stay we us and keep your fingers crossed for us.
First meeting International meeting of SGLs behind us. We had great place: gardens in front of Louvre, Paris, great weather: the sun was shining maybe even too much and last but not least we had great participants. There was a lot of talking, laughing and delicious food. It appeared that some of the people really know how too cook (carrot-cheese cake will stay in memory for a long time). The rest is a secret... ;) http://www.IamSGL.org